I saw this at Nassim Taleb’s “Fooled by Randomness” site:
Dobelli [Lucerne, Switzerland] Can you increase happiness by knowing your cognitive errors (and by
avoiding them)?(A side note: I believe that happiness is not equal to the absence of disaster – or vice versa. It’s not a linear opposite. The two properties (happiness and unhappiness) are somehow correlated, but in a strange way. But that’s for the happiness researchers to figure out, for the Dan Gilbert types.)
Taleb [New York] Let me repeat my statement about small mistakes. You will not increase happiness by
increasing cognitive fitness and rationality. Happiness requires some wisdom about big things, but childishness with the small things.
Comment:
Rolf Dobelli, one of the genuinely brilliant minds of the business world, has shown himself at home in philosophy, fiction, business, and finance.
He has a great book out called “The Art of Thinking Clearly” where I his talent for pithy aphorisms and philosophical analysis is, once again, on display.
I hope to read the book soon. Any book that promises to make the task of managing the “monkey mind” easier has to be at the top of my “to do” list.
Modest, yet outgoing, with the intellectual equipment of a scholar and the conviviality of the bon-vivant, Dr. Dobelli also manages to be an approachable nice guy, a creature apparently found in more abundance in Switzerland than in certain other geographical locations.
Maybe his next book should be “The Art of Being a Good Guy.”
Seems like that would fill a huge vacuum, say, around the DC beltway and hinterland.
Dobelli’s comment about happiness is insightful. Happiness is not unrelated to being free of unhappiness, as he points out. But the two are by no means mutually exclusive, either. There is asymmetry in the correlation. It is non-linear.
Meanwhile, Taleb’s assessment also struck home with me.
The “childish small things” I fancy are animals and… soft toys.
I “rescued” a brown and white fluffy rabbit the other day, left right on top of the dumpster, hardly a stain on his synthetic fur, looking all forlorn, one ear up and one down, his nylon whiskers askew.
Wetted down with a damp towel and soap, then sun-dried, he now has pride of place among the silent muses and “angels” I keep around me to guard that space of joy that no circumstance in life will ever take from me again.
Soft toys embody my love of story-telling, carried over from an idyllic childhood filled with books, music, imaginative play, and loving family. Even thinking back to it brings back a smile to my face, even in the blackest mood.
As a child, I would go to bed, telling stories to anyone who would listen, a patient, half-asleep sib or my weary parents, if I was lucky.
Otherwise, I had to content myself with the menagerie of teddy bears, giraffes, tinker-bells, baby elephants, dolls, and stuffed dogs that were my imaginary playmates and the compliant actors in the tableaux I staged across my bedroom with pillows and sheets for building blocks.
I’ve no doubt anyone who came across me today, in one of my ventriloquist moods, animating a toy rabbit, would think I was crazy to enjoy make-believe at this age.
But, in fact, the older I get, the more I like fantasy, children’s stories, and theater. There seems to be something of the gods in these things.
When I look out the window, on the other hand, all I see is that trivial, vulgar thing called, for some inexplicable reason, “real life” ….and, along with it, too many stunted beings who shrink with each passing second, yet glory in being called “grown ups.”
On stuffed aminals, awwwwww.
I agree, what normally passes for “adulthood” is greatly overrated.
I think I held onto my littlest stuffed bunny until I was in high school. It was just cute. I probably would still have it, but I seem to remember my dear departed dog got hold of it and tore it up.
Most of my imaginary friends, however, I created with pen and pencil. Around junior high, for some strange reason, I took up drawing uncommonly beautiful, impossibly proportioned fantasy girlfriends. (Well, what else would an artistically skilled/socially unskilled adolescent male do?)
At least when I say I can “really draw the chicks,” I have proof — right here, on paper.
Also, I can honestly say it forced me to mature as an artist. Drawing realistic 44DDs takes a lot of practice.
BTW, I feel sorry for the stuffed-animal fans who do a Google image search for “stuffed rabbit” that returns pics of real rabbits skinned and sliced up in cooking pots. Oh wells, say la vee……
Bon vivant conviviality goes well with raconteur wit, so I’ve heard.
I’d hate to be a kid growing up today, in the electronic entertainment blizzard. I’m glad that we could only get 6 TV channels during most of my formative years (and of those, our viewing time was strictly limited). That we had a piano (however mediocre-sounding and out of tune), and writing/drawing/painting tools, and tape recorders to create our own “radio stations” and skits. I’m glad I was provided with an alto saxophone rather than a gaming console or an iPad. I’m glad I was encouraged to sing, to play baseball (however poorly), to ride and explore on my bike, to learn how to create, improvise and entertain myself, rather than sit around complaining about how bored I was.
I have to admit, though, the electronic media world has got its claws into me too. I have to mightly resist the urge to overconsume. I know why the stereotypical writer goes off into the country and locks himself away in a cabin for six months. If you want to have anything of value to contribute, you have to shut yourself off for awhile. But you already know that….