UPDATE:
Please note that this piece is not intended to bash or mock women who have undergone abortions. That is a matter between a woman and her conscience, at least under current law.
The post is intended to deride an abortion-activist who turns a matter that at all other times she claims is private into a public spectacle, even while branding critics as pure evil, for simply telling her what they think about it.
ORIGINAL POST
Yet another gloriously “humanitarian” feminist, not content with aborting her child, goes viral with the deed so she can blot out her guilt.….
The malign mommy didn’t really film her first trimester abortion in gory detail, because that would put a crimp in her “you-go-girl” story.
She just filmed herself – the heroine of the episode.
A genuine aborti-flick would have shown the unpleasant reality behind the flattering fiction.
And, of course, this brand of feminism is all about spinning flattering fiction…. and erasing unflattering reality.
Mommy dearest writes:
“A first trimester abortion takes three to five minutes. It is safer than giving birth. There is no cutting, and risk of infertility is less than 1 percent. Yet women come into the clinic all the time terrified that they are going to be cut open, convinced that they won’t be able to have kids after the abortion. The misinformation is amazing, but think about it: They are still willing to sacrifice these things because they know that they can’t carry the child at this moment.
[Lila: To an objective observer, this “sacrifice” is nothing of the sort. It is sheer recklessness.]
“There are three options for a first-trimester abortion: medical abortion, which is the pill; a surgical abortion with IV sedation, where you’re asleep through the whole thing; and a surgical abortion with local anesthesia during which you’re awake. Women are most terrified of being awake.
[Lila: Indeed.]
“I could have taken the pill, but I wanted to do the one that women were most afraid of. I wanted to show it wasn’t scary — and that there is such a thing as a positive abortion story. It’s my story.
Everyone at the clinic was really supportive of filming it.”
[Lila: Mass man is at his core a voyeur, a bored busy-body. He seems never happier than when playing peeping- tom at your expense, or sharing more than you want to know, at his own.]
“At first they wanted to sit down and talk about the real consequences of this. There are a lot of politics involved. We knew we could have hundreds of protesters at our door; we could have bomb threats. Working at an abortion clinic, every once in awhile it feels like you’re working in a war zone.
[Lila: Her self -dramatization takes away the focus from the real victims, her unborn baby.]
“But I said, “Bring it,” and they were on board.
I knew the cameras were in the room during the procedure, but I forgot about them almost immediately. I was focused on staying positive and feeling the love from everyone in the room. I am so lucky that I knew everyone involved, and I was so supported. I remember breathing and humming through it like I was giving birth. I know that sounds weird, but to me, this was as birth-like as it could be. It will always be a special memory for me. I still have my sonogram, and if my apartment were to catch fire, it would be the first thing I’d grab.
[Lila: If this were metaphysics, it would be excellent. As abortion documentary, it’s nothing more than delusion.]
“The first night I posted the video to my Facebook page, I couldn’t sleep. I went out with friends, and I was so paranoid people were looking at me a certain way because they saw my video. The intimacy of it made me nervous, even though I really wanted people to see it.
[Lila: Can anyone any more wonder why the population doesn’t object to its medical records being pawed through by the government? People simply have no sense of privacy. If the love of private life is the mark of the civilized man, then we must confront the truth that we are no longer civilized.]
“Then I looked at my Facebook wall. I was expecting this tsunami of hateful, scary things, but everyone was so breathtakingly supportive. People who I have never talked to started writing their own abortion stories.
[Lila: Bad taste, thy name is “sisterhood.”]
“I had one woman who messaged me saying she’d had an abortion that week and she was plagued with guilt. Her boyfriend called her a killer, but she said she was recovering well and appreciated the video. Another woman told me she’d had a miscarriage and that because of my video she felt like she could talk to me about it. Just all of these things started pouring out of women.
There were hateful responses, of course, which was the hardest part of this whole thing. When I put it up on YouTube, pro-lifers put it on their newscasts. And so I got, “You’re a Nazi,” “You deserve to die,” “You killed your baby.” Just so much blind hatred without knowing who I am or what I’m about.
[Lila: This so-called “hatred” is far from blind. It’s the wide-awake anger of the sentient and the just, appalled by her self-absorption and indifference to what is, finally, a killing.
It is both natural and good to hate something hate-worthy, like irresponsible killing.]
“Still, every time I watch the video, I love it. I love how positive it is. I think that there are just no positive abortion stories on video for everyone to see. But mine is.
I know there are women who feel great remorse. I have seen the tears. Grieving is an important part of a woman’s process, but what I really wanted to address in my video is guilt.
[Lila: Yes, guilt. That little voice from one’s conscience that says that abortion is not all fine-and-dandy.]
“Our society breeds this guilt. We inhale it from all directions. Even women who come to the clinic completely solid in their decision to have an abortion say they feel guilty for not feeling guilty. Even though they know 110 percent that this is the best decision for them, they pressure themselves to feel bad about it.
I didn’t feel bad. I do feel a little irresponsible and embarrassed about not using birth control. I mean, Emily, wake up! What are you doing? I was going against the advice I give to patients all the time. So I had them put an IUD in after the abortion. I was able to learn and move forward. And I am grateful that I can share my story and inspire other women to stop the guilt.”
Lila: Translation:
As long as you can make yourself feel good about it, go ahead and do what you want. Ignore anyone who suggests that, if not garden-variety murder, this is something less and more at the same time.
Above all, feel good, because feeling good is all that matters.
For that, keep tight control of the language and the images.
Don’t let either get out of your control.
As long as you can make yourself look good, through subversion of the language you can feel good.
As long as you feel good, you are good.
And anyone who fails to go along with that self-portrait, why, they’re nothing more than haters.